From Chronic Pain to Empowered Healing: My Story

"All you have is your health. That’s where it starts—and where it ends. And healing? It begins with Love. The kind that starts with yourself.”

Kelsey Pew

Since I was a little girl, movement was my medicine and creative joy. 

Whether it was dancing, hula-hooping, or learning a new sport, I thrived on the rush of syncing body and mind. But by my mid-20s, that ease disappeared. Movement became painful. My body felt like a rusty old tractor, weighed down by allergies, asthma, intense menstrual pain, and strange recurring infections.

To say the least, I was completely out of balance.

After university, I lost access to the only female doctor I trusted. Navigating the medical system was discouraging—clinic visits led to generic answers and dismissals. One doctor even told me to accept a lifetime of antibiotics. Deep down, I knew this wasn't the answer. 

My body wasn't broken; it was speaking a language I hadn't yet learned.

Can you relate?

Then I met Olga—a Russian healer giving a corporate wellness talk. She introduced me to energy work and a biofeedback machine, describing our bodies as icebergs: only the symptoms show, while deeper issues lurk below. Skeptical but curious, I booked a session. After one appointment, I felt real, physical relief. 

It wasn't magic—it was clarity. And it gave me the courage to take the next right step.

Olga told me to cut out gluten and dairy. At that time, I was drinking milk like a growing boy, and was eating cheese like it was my job, and had no regard for the impacts of 'processed' anything, but I committed to the change. Over the next five years, I went all in. I took Qigong lessons, head tapping classes, liver cleanses, and family healing workshops—I did everything to understand my body and unearth the emotional roots of my pain. 

My progress looked like chaos: a few wins, followed by what felt like even more unraveling.

And let me tell you, the judgment was constant—Eastern medicine was “weird,” and people questioned whether healers were “real.” 

But intuitively, I knew better. 

My infections stopped: my body was healing, but my life wasn't. Due to the physical relief, I realized my environment, relationships, and especially my marriage, were stuck in old patterns.

I had to keep going.

Letting go became the theme.

First food. Then, painfully, my husband. It was one of the hardest decisions of my life. People wanted me to “fix it,” but I couldn't. The deeper truth was this: I had no boundaries. Not with my work, my friends, or even myself. 

My healing journey had to include emotional detachment from anything misaligned.

Including the man I loved.

But life had another surprise.

After our separation, my husband Luke went to California. There, he had his own awakening. He realized he had been sabotaging our relationship out of fear—of abandonment, of not being enough. When he came home from his trip – he called me up and said, 'I would like to sit down with you and have a chat.'  At that point, I anticipated the talk being about how we were going to split up our lives.

(little did I know)

Instead, he was clean-shaven, with a bottle of wine, a pizza, and a list of ways he wanted to show up differently.

1. Keep life simple

2. Take her dancing

3. Do the little things

4. Be the man of the house

5. Think for two

6. Drink wine

7. Don't work too much

8. It gets done when it gets done

 I was stunned. It was everything I needed to hear—and never expected. That moment wasn't about getting back together. It was about hope. It was the end of one chapter, and the messy, beautiful beginning of another. 

That was 2012—the year of the snake. Since then, we've shed many skins.

Today, I no longer have asthma, allergies, or chronic pain, and I rarely take painkillers. Let me be clear, healing didn't come from pills or miracles. It came from hard work, showing up for myself, and keeping my integrity even when it would've been easier not to. Healing meant being honest, making scary decisions, and letting go of what no longer served me.

I used to think self-healing was for other people—gurus or mystics. But it's not. It's for all of us. I healed because I had no other choice. And I share my story because maybe, just maybe, you're ready to start healing too.

With that I have two questions:

1. What beliefs or patterns have you had to let go of in order to begin your own healing journey?

2. How do you discern the difference between discomfort that leads to growth and discomfort that signals misalignment?

I would love to hear from you, so leave a comment below!

Until Next Week!

Stay Wild,

Spring into Action with Fresh Goals and Fierce Energy

"Action is the foundational key to all success”

Pablo Picasso.

And that’s a wrap on Women’s History Month!

So tell me, what did you think?

Did I blow your mind with new perspectives on very old narratives? Or were you like, "Meh…I knew that already."

And don’t worry if you missed a few and are dying to catch up on your women’s history; I’ve added the links below.

Now that we’re flying into April, it's time to create some action.

Why?

Because Spring has sprung and just like a garden it's time to pull out old roots and clear up any debris to make room for new beginnings.

And there’s no grass growing under our feet right?!

For me personally, I’ve been trying to get swoll – at least that’s what all the kids are sayin these days when they’re trying to get into shape

Let’s be real—my days of training for peak performance are long behind me—

Not that my peak was all that impressive, to begin with.

So, one of my big goals is to be able to do 10 push-ups from the ground up.

So far, I can do four. Ok, maybe three, and then sometimes if I make a whole bunch of weird faces and give it all I got, I hit four.

And gotta say, the numbers don’t do me justice. Four years ago, my left shoulder popped out like a cheap lawn chair, and six months ago, I could barely crank out one.

How about you?

Is it time to clean out that closet in your spare bedroom? Or choose a new route on your daily walk?

Or perhaps you’re ready to dig a little deeper into your relationships?

I would love to hear from you, so leave a comment below!

Until Next Week!

Stay Wild,

Women's History Month: A ‘serious’ Academic Study on Equality

"Those who control the narrative, control the world”

Caitlin Johnstone.

He slammed his fists against the mahogany desk.

 "That's not how things are done around here, Kelsey."

I looked down at my manager as he rubbed his knuckles, he stood, grabbed his gym bag, looked at me, and said, “I have a squash game in five minutes, and we discussed this yesterday; we do not give discounts.”

My mind was racing. I can't take this anymore. Why was he making this so hard? My calculations showed that profit margins will comfortably sit between 25% and 35% for the next two years! How could he not understand this?

I rolled my eyes and sighed; he hates it when I roll my eyes.

Then he shook his head mumbled something under his breath and walked out.

Yes, my boss was right. It wasn't how things were done around there, but I was the first and only woman in the world to sell service rigs, so why would I do it the same way? Isn't that one of the reasons why they hired me? I'm not the same.  How on earth am I supposed to generate 10 million dollars this year?

When I was initially hired, they didn't expect much out of me (being the new girl and all). But when I tripled my revenue in the first nine months, things changed. In less than two years, my expected revenue went from 1 million dollars to 10.

And to top it off, although the executives were impressed with their new shiny investment (me), my middle manager and a few others were starting to see me more as a threat than a teammate. Never a good thing when you are trying to get ahead.

I slumped down in my boss's chair, leaned back, and closed my eyes.

'Humph, that's not how things are done around here—I don't know how many times I have heard that before.'

Can anyone else relate to the story above?

That old narrative seems to stick around like gum on the bottom of your shoe on a hot summer day.

Believe it or not, we've actually come a long way.

In May 1969, Maclean's Magazine published an article based on an academic study by Dr. Lionel Tiger, a Canadian sociologist. In it, he claimed that men have a biological need to bond with other males, which is why it makes them effective leaders —and validates why they run the institutions of the world. He further argues that because women lack the same natural tendencies for bonding with other women, coupled with being biologically programmed for 'hearth and home' they will never achieve equality with men.

Thoughts?

(Sidebar: Honestly, this still kinda pisses me off, but at least it's no longer our 'normal.')

Here's what I'm thinking.

Sure, there's an air of patriarchal authority still lingering, and yes, our evolution of consciousness is slow. But the only way to break free from that 265-year-old, stale, boxed-in mindset is to step away from the should's expectations and supposed to's and replace them with hope and courage.

You need hope to muster up the courage to be the change that you want to see in the world.

And if you're someone who has been barked at because you're doing things differently — congratulations for stepping outside the box, you're not here to blend in, perhaps it's time to see that as your superpower. 

So, what does a healthier more balanced future look like to you?

Not sure?

The trick is to start slow.

Ask yourself questions like: How many tasks do you do simply because it's the role you assumed?

(remember, on average women still do 4-8 more hours of domestic duties a week)

Where in your life is it time to ask for help?

What old narratives are you ready to shed— like a heavy fur coat from your grandmother's basement?

If you're still questioning your worth in this world—

remember this: if women were both physically and mentally weaker than men, we would be dead. Men would have 'accidentally' hunted us all down, stuffed us, and put us up like wall trophies. 

I would love to hear from you, so leave a comment below!

Until Next Week!

Stay Wild,

Women's History Month: The Feminist Memo You Never Got (But Should Have)

"Each time a woman stands up for herself, without knowing it possibly, without claiming it, she stands up for all women”

Maya Angelou.

Put your tights on Kelsey, we're going to Church.

Why aren't you wearing any underwear?  

Where's your camisole that goes on under your dress?

Mom, these tights don't fit—they're too short and I can't pull them up all the way. That slippery thing under my dress makes me feel like I have wasps in my blood, and those undies make my 'parts' itchy.

Why do we have to go to Church anyway?  It is sooooo boring.  I hate going to church.

My mother frowned, and the crease between her eyes deepened, making her look like she had two bum cheeks—my cue to disappear.

I rolled my face, shut my bedroom door, and stuck out my tongue.

“Why do I have to wear all this stupid stuff under my dress anyway?” I yelled through the door.

Kelsey, how many times do we have to go over this? It's not ladylike to wear nothing underneath. Nice young ladies must wear a camisole and underwear.

Humph… Ladylike. I don't want to be ladylike—I just want to play. I guarantee my cousin Mitch doesn't have to be ladylike, wear a camisole, or go to church today. Church sucks.

My mom yelled through the door – I'm telling you Kelsey; you're going to Church.  And if you don't have all your undergarments on when we leave this house, you'll have to do double the chores next week.

I slumped down on my bed and snuggled into my stuffy pile.

I grabbed Miss Shortcake and lifted her dress – nope – no undies there.

Life is not fair.

I slid off my bed onto the floor and stared at the glow-in-the-dark stickers on my ceiling. I thought to myself, maybe if I hide under the bed, they won't find me.

And then my mother shouted from the kitchen - Kelsey, we are leaving in five minutes, and don't think about hiding under your bed.

I quickly scanned the room – is she watching me? How does she do that?

I was doomed.  Another Sunday ruined.

Can any other ladies relate to the story above? 

(or something close to it)

Well then, I suppose you could call yourself a feminist in the making.

And while we're at it, let's break down the term feminism 

(because it really does get a bad rap.)

According to Karen Offen, who wrote, 'Defining Feminism:  A Comparative Historical Approach, she says that,

“Feminism opposes women's subordination to men in the family and society, along with men's claims to define what is best for women without consulting them; it offers a frontal challenge to patriarchal thought, social organizations, and control mechanisms. Feminism makes claims for a rebalancing between women and men of the social, economic, and political power within a given society, on behalf of both sexes in the name of their common humanity, but with respect for their differences.”

Simply put; if you're a woman and want to control your finances, have dreams of becoming the Prime minister, have a job (outside the home), choose not to have children, go to school, believe in equal pay, believe in personal freedom, do not want to act like a lady, and/or don't conform to any other of society's rules of behavior – then you're a feminist.

So my question to you is – why are so many weary of the term feminism?

To start, if a woman chose to take a stand against 'the rules of society' the odds of her being labeled a witch, ridiculed, harassed, beaten, or even killed, were definitely in her favour.

And last week's blog uncovered an uncomfortable truth—our fight for emancipation and equality wasn't built on solid ground.

Our trailblazing foremothers who ignited the feminist movement also created two opposing schools of thought—locked in a battle against each other while chasing the same ultimate goal.

When it comes to creating lasting change, a foundation divided against itself is hardly the strongest place to start.

So, could it be as simple as Society not getting the memo? 

Are we confused by all the negative noise and fearful that we're going to be singled out and ostracised by our peers because our past was so scary?

So what are our next steps?

1. It's time to rewrite the narrative – it's ok to support other women even with opposing opinions

2. Accept the past, learn from it, and let it go

3. Empower yourself and be the change that you want to see

What do you think?

Let me know in the comments below!

Until Next Week,

Stay Wild.

Women's History Month: The Feminist Feud: How We Won, Where We Failed & What’s Next

"I do not wish women to have power over men; but over themselves.”

Mary Wollstonecraft.

What does that last statement mean to you?

To me, it seems that Western society has been secretly singing the same tune since 1792.

Why do you think a woman living 233 years ago would even dare to say something like that?

Was she some sort of evil, conniving feminist?

If you could drop that question into an imaginary "Western Society Drop Box," I’m pretty sure the Evangelicals would give that a wholehearted amen.

Because that’s what Western society’s foundation is built on—the Industrial Revolution, the Age of Enlightenment, Evangelicalism, capitalism, the rise of the middle class, and the middle-class bourgeoisie.

(Side Bar: "conniving feminist" is purely for dramatic effect)

If you are unaware of Mary Wollstonecraft’s work, she is famously known for writing A Vindication of the Rights of Women, in which she chose to take a stand on how society views women and how women view other women in society.

My own sex, I hope will excuse me, if I treat them like rational creatures, instead of flattering their fascinating graces, and viewing them as if they were in a state of perpetual childhood, unable to stand alone. Contending for the rights of women, my main argument is built on this simple principle, that if she be not prepared by education to become the companion of man, she will stop the progress of knowledge and virtue:  for truth must be common to all.

Ok, so, my next question to you is why was it so important for women to socially act like pathetic pansies?

This is where Evangelicalism comes in.

Among many things, the effect of the Industrial Revolution bred a class of people. The middle-class bourgeois was built on a foundation of morally strong Evangelicalists that ‘pilloried’ the aristocratic values, and the term ‘Angel in the household’ was coined. A core belief of Victorian ideology was the 'separate spheres' concept: women belonged to the domestic sphere—home and family—while men operated in the public sphere of work and politics. The rise of the bourgeois lifestyle brought a whole new rulebook for women. Their moral code was to fight against the evils of society 

(think drinking, slavery, men behaving badly, and women working outside the home). 

But was expected to be modest, unassuming, submissive—seen as physically and mentally weaker —and therefore 'unfit' for most jobs (except domestic duties of course).

If that went right over your head, picture this: 

Take a piece of paper and draw two circles overlapping each other, with George Banks's face on the right and Winifred Banks on the left (from the movie Mary Poppins), and in the middle where this a little bit of a ‘gray’ area that's where they met (primarily over a martini and a slice of meatloaf) would be a perfect description of the term separate sphere ideology. 

The problem?

Since society insisted that the only place for a woman was in the home, these unrealistic expectations didn’t translate to the working-class ladies.

Enter feminism and the right to vote.

Yes, women were indeed fed up with the fact that they had no voice or power in the public sphere, but half needed a voice because they had mouths to feed and no one or government to help them and the other half saw a need to reform society and make it a purer place. 

Are you picking up what I’m putting down?

Our fight for a voice in the public sphere was split into two equally important, but totally opposite schools of Feminist thought.

Instead of banding together and forming the biggest and baddest ‘all women’s social elite team,’ attacking society's problems based on the fundamental needs of society, instead of its wants, they split into two.

Maternal Feminists (aka Winifred Banks): was based on strong Christian morals that wanted a voice in the public sphere to ‘transform daily life, based on the belief of universality of sin (that you’re born evil) and the need for a constant struggle against it,’ however, resisted the idea of women joining the public workforce.

Equal Rights Feminists (aka The Bra Burning Beasts): fought against unfair laws and attitudes that encouraged discrimination against women.

(which was basically everything.)

Ok, so here’s the part that I love.

Even though we were having our own internal conflict - and things were really bad - we still managed to get what we needed.

Here’s where I feel we missed the mark.

First, we need to acknowledge that being a Western woman is a privilege. Our foremothers have fought hard for our freedom and although there have been incredible changes for us over the last 20 years, that freedom is being compromised.

We need to draw a line in the sand - and it starts with supporting one another (even when you don’t want to). I’m not rallying for grandiose gestures, but to pay attention to those past narratives that held us back and be the change we want to see.

We owe it to our past and the future of all humankind.

What do you think?

Click below and let me know!

Until Next Week,

Stay Wild.

Women's History Month: Told to Stay in My Lane? I Built My Own Damn Road.

"The question isn't who's going to let me; it's who's going to stop me.”

Ayn Rand.

No Kelsey you can’t play basketball at lunch on Fridays.

Why not? (as I rolled my face at him)

Because you’re a girl. And the old-school P.E. teacher turned around and walked away.

What a dick – I thought to myself. I guess playing basketball on Tuesday nights with the MEN was not good enough.

Like so many other girls, that wasn’t the first time I was excluded from an activity simply because the rules were different for me.

I remember thrashing around, frustrated and pissed off, demanding, “Why is HE allowed to do that?”—only to hear the same dismissive response:

“That’s just the way it is.”

Being a child of the eighties, I’ve always felt like I had one foot in two different worlds.

On one hand, I spent every Wednesday cooking with my Hungarian great-grandmother, who was born in 1899 and didn’t speak English, and on the other, I was using computers in school and fondly remember watching my mom graduate from university.

The modern woman was on the rise, but behind closed doors—and under the spotlight of social norms—she was still expected to stay quiet and act like a lady.

Welcome to Women’s History Month!

Over the next few weeks, I’m going to take you on a deep dive into the past—unpacking old narratives and shedding new light on the beliefs we’ve been taught to accept.

And if you think those old ways have disappeared like your grandmother’s rotary phone—think again.

We’re just at the beginning of reshaping the future for women, and there’s a hell of a lot of work to do.

My goal?

To shed light on the history that rarely gets talked about.

For example: did you know the official date when Canadian women got the right to vote is a lie?
Or that two competing schools of feminist thought were battling each other for the same outcome?
Or what the term feminism actually means!

(Because let’s be honest, it really does get a bad rap.)

And if you think that old-school P.E. teacher discouraged me from doing what I needed to do just because I was a girl?

Not a chance.

Anyone who’s ever tried to box me in has only fueled my fire. I love the challenge of being challenged. In fact, pushing back against society’s norms has been one of my greatest assets.

It drove me to become a top athlete, powered my corporate success, and ultimately forced me to step into my most authentic self.

Yes, the past can be uncomfortable—but isn’t it time we finally put all those outdated assumptions about women to bed for good?

Stay tuned. There’s so much more to come.

I’ll leave you with a question:

• When was a moment in your life when you went against what was expected of you?

• How did it change the trajectory of your life?

I’d love to hear your story—so write in the comments below and let me know!

Until Next Week,

Stay Wild.

Burn the Playbook-Break the Rules

“It's better to beg for forgiveness than ask for permission.”

Rear Admiral Grace Hopper

Truth.

I don’t know about you, but following the rules is not one of my strong suits. It's not necessarily because I am trying to be defiant, rather, I’m not too keen on listening to someone ‘just cause.’ We all have our limitations and boundaries and believe me I have been banged around A LOT, but most of that stuff was between me and the Universe. Not some stupid rule written on a board or in a ledger reminding everyone ‘to follow the rules.’

Can you relate?

For example, if I decided to follow the rules, I wouldn’t have been the first woman in the world to sell service rigs, or, to play in all-male hockey tournaments in my industry!

Choosing to be bold and step out of my comfort zone created opportunities that I could have never dreamed of!

Is it dangerous to step ‘outside the box?’

Absolutely!

But look at it this way if it hasn’t been done before, then you have this amazing opportunity to pave your own way, without any noisy distractions and competitive comparisons.

Being the ‘only’ one is your edge.

And in my case, playing hockey with the guys skyrocketed my business.

So many deals were cultivated from sitting in the dressing room - after a fairly bad game of hockey - having a beer, and a bullshit.

I mean yes of course there will be the typical ‘stereotypical’ preconceived notions and assumptions, as to why it’s ‘wrong’ to break the rules, and believe me, there will be people who will try to shove you back in the box, but if you perceive those people and experiences more like a game, then they become situations to pivot from, rather than roadblocks.

So, tell me something:

What is one opportunity or chance you took on yourself that defied all odds and broke all the rules?

When was the last time you did something wild and crazy first, then said ‘sorry’ later?

Well, great job – keep breaking down those barriers!

And if you need a little more help, I have created 5 non-rules for someone who hates rules, to keep me centered and on my path and I think you’ll like them.

So print these off and paste them everywhere!

And remember!

Keep going for all of those hard-to-reach dreams!

Until Next Week,

Stay Wild,

Ditch the Chaos & Take Control of your Time

“Time and space are modes by which we think and not conditions in which we live.”

Albert Einstein

Question for you:

How do you feel about the concept of time?

Are you always on time and able to get all the things checked off on your ‘to-do’ list? Or are you in a constant state of panic - rushing around like a chicken with your head cut off?

Do you feel like you have enough time to do all the things on your bucket list – or are you sitting on your couch, watching Netflix - and the world wash away?

For me, my past was plagued by bad looks from my bosses, ‘eye-rolls’ from my pals, and constant excuses as to why I was late.

To sum it up, I was a hamster, racing as fast as I could - going nowhere - in the middle of that goddam hamster wheel.

And I was exhausted.

Can you relate?

When I left the corporate world, I pledged to myself that I would reprogram my unruly habits and find a way to have a healthy relationship with time. And let me tell you – it has not been easy. For someone who thought she could ‘do everything’ with no concept of my limitations or boundaries, I have learned a lot.

Speaking of learning things, did you know that the average person spends a minimum of 3 hours and 15 minutes a day on their phone?

What a waste of time!

So, over the next few weeks, I am going to give you insights and tips on how to have a healthy relationship with your time, so you can start doing the things you want to do, instead of being overwhelmed by all the things you need to do.

Sound good?

A little warning, you’re going to have to do a little homework.

Don’t worry we will start slow.

This week I simply want you to do two things for me:

1.       Get the gusto to see how much time you spent on your phone yesterday.

2.      Leave your phone at home when you head out for that quick walk, or trip to the grocery store.

 And I want to hear from you! So grab that ‘courage juice’ and leave a comment below, I promise you, you’re not alone.

Until Next Week,

Stay Wild

The Devil You Know: Letting go of Toxic Behaviour

“You can’t reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday’s junk.”

Louise Smith

'You have come to a crossroads, and you can't take it anymore. The uneasiness, the sleepless nights, the ruminating, the feeling that you're not doing it right, saying it right, or good enough. You tell yourself, if I just stop 'thinking' about it, it will disappear. So you sweep it under the rug. Avoid it at all costs and search for comfort in the uncomfortable; forcing you to stay at that same shitty job, hang out with the same shitty friends, or stay in that same shitty marriage.'

It's the devil you know.

Your dysfunctional function.

Put your hand up if you've ever 'been there' before 

(or something close to it)

Yep. Me too.

But I have some great news.

Are you ready for it?

Your perceived setbacks are opportunities for growth.

And believe me, I get it. It's NOT for the faint of heart.

With so much noise in every orifice of our existence, it's easy to pull out that phone and doomscroll your life away. But if you want to truly move forward, you must let go of the toxicity that is constantly ruining your day and replace it with courage.

The first step in letting go of toxic behavior is having the strength to take a risk on yourself.

You need to be brave, and you need to be your biggest cheerleader. So, move aside all the 'shoulds' expectations and supposed 'to's' and take a step toward what you need to do, rather than what your mind wants you to do (remember it wants safe and easy).

Next, you need to find a way to gently heal your wounds from the past. Enroll in a free online course on how to connect with your intuition. Delve into the many faces of spirituality. Hire a therapist or search out alternative medicines. Either way, all healing needs to be done with an open-mind. Take what you need and leave the rest.

The trick is to shake things up, concoct new thoughts, and try new things.

And most importantly: Be gentle with the process.

Removing something toxic in your life is like cleaning a festering wound in its entirety – it's painful and arduous and it needs love.

Still skeptical?

Here are some of your risks:

Less noise

More rest

Healthier gut

Healthier body

Happy endings

Healthier boundaries

Figure out the difference between wants and needs

Communicate better

Have the confidence to do more cool shit!

And remember! 

It will almost always leave a scar. 

Embrace it. 

A good scar always has a great story behind it -it's a reminder of where you came from.

So, what are you waiting for?

What soul-sucking toxic behavior are you ready to tackle today? 

The Dirty Truth About Chasing Your Dreams:

Welcome back, folks!

I cannot believe it’s the 10th of January! Right now, as I sit in my housecoat, watching the snow fall, drinking my decaf, I take a moment of thanks and gratitude, because holy-moly life is pretty dam good!

Why do I say that?

Well, because Luke and I are preparing to embark on another journey and tack on another win off the ol’bucket list! Although I don’t want to ruin the surprise -just yet- I do want to share my experiences of what fulfilling a dream feels like to me.

And it's probably not what you think.

First of all, bringing a dream to reality can be messy.

What do I mean by this?

Say, you have laid out a perfect plan, set all the details in motion, have your finances organized, a couple of particulars locked down, and then blamo, shit has gone sideways. All of a sudden, that easy, breezy plan you have been dreaming about your whole life is no good, and self-doubt, insecurity, and fear show up…Again.

What do you do now? Your plan is not going as expected, and your dreams seem to be swirling around your mind, like toilet water.

Perhaps you start comparing yourself to others, telling yourself that they have it all together, and why would you think this dream was meant for you anyways? You’re 90% certain that you’re going to pull the plug and run home with your tail between your legs.

Can you relate?

Dreams rarely play out the way you expect them to. I’m not saying that to deter you from living a dreamy life, it's more of a reminder that life is not linear, rather it ebbs and flows through different landscapes, and it's crucial to adapt to them. Fulfilling your dreams takes grit and courage. It forces you to let go of the ego and allow the universe to guide you. And if you’re not careful, you will miss the whole show.

It's true, a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step – but boy-oh-boy when you make it to the finish line…there is just nothing like it.

Now tell me something, what are your dreams? What is something that you MUST do before it's too late?

I know I cannot wait to share mine!

Stay tuned for next week’s post, as I’m so over the moon excited to reveal our next life dream!!!

Until Next Week,

Stay Wild

Much Love,

Kelsey

Surviving & Thriving: Lessons, Laughs, and Leaving 2024 in the Dust!

Happy New Year!

Welcome back! I hope you had a nice holiday season! Mine was filled with lots of love and laughter, a full belly, stretchy pants, and some great memories.

So, tell me, how was it for you?

Did you march into the New Year with some skip in your step, ready to tackle another journey around the sun– OR were you counting down the seconds hoping/praying that nothing was going to drop out of the sky and attack you right before the clock struck twelve?

You know those years, when you’re completely depleted, you have nothing left in the tank except for your dignity, an empty bottle of wine, and a few crackers left in an old Ritz box.

 If you resonate with any or all of the above, don’t worry, you’re not alone.

I’ve been there WAY too many times. In fact, after one grueling year (think, living in a Van down by the river, the dog tore her ACL, then got attacked by a German Shepard, AND then overdosed on drugs in a matter of 6 weeks while my husband was going to University with absolutely no money) I ugly cried so hard to my bestie - with joy - because somehow, I, nor my dog, nor my husband did not die.

Oh life. Can you relate?

Not this year though. This year, I can already feel the momentum, thanks to all those previous years of ‘hard lessons,’ I’m not only grateful for the wisdom that I have gained but I’m packed with all the confidence and new shiny emotional gun-slinging tools that I need to be the best version of myself.

I guess you could say, ‘I’m like a fine wine or a stinky cheese, I just get better with age.’

How about you? Are you ready to kick ass and take names? Or are you still licking your wounds from some of the life-jarring blows of 2024?

Remember, that’s ok too. Just think, ‘Triumph through adversity,’ but make sure you keep going.

So, tell me something - What kind of awesome things did you learn about yourself in 2024, and what have you chosen to leave behind?

Here are mine:

·         Launched my Coaching Business

·         Moved into a dream condo on the ski hill

·         Started an apparel company with my husband

·         Hit a higher level of spiritual growth – it turns out, that I do belong!

Things that I left in the dust:

·         My lack of self-worth

·         Not listening to my gut

Leave it in the comments below and let's do 2025 together! And remember, if you’re stuck in your life or your business, let’s connect! If you go to my website www.kelseypew.com I offer a free discovery call, and I guarantee that you will walk away with some well-deserved confidence and clarity to get you on your way.

Until next week,

Stay Wild

Xoxo

Kelsey

PS – I have exciting news to share with you in the coming weeks so stay tuned!!

Forgiveness Isn’t Weak—It’s a Superpower!

Merry Christmas and Salutations!

Thanks for taking the time to read this, I know life is super crazy busy right now, and I appreciate the love.

So, tell me something – How. Are. You. Feeling?

Because lately, I’m as unpredictable as the weather. I’m either irritated with all the hustle and bustle in town, or super sappy when the Christmas commercials pop up.

Can you feel it too?

The push and the pull of letting go of 2024 and getting ready for 2025 is real.

If you read my last post, you know that I have been mega-focusing on forgiveness. That one’s such a toughie because those old wounds seem to surface during this time of year - whether you like it or not.

Last week I found myself ‘ugly crying’ like Bridget Jones, over some old wounds that I thought were put to bed a long time ago. You know the kind of crying- when you have a lump in your throat the size of Texas and it hurts so bad to get it out, that panic sets in because you think to yourself, am I going to stay like this forever?

But the thing is, you don’t, and if you let it out, you’re always guaranteed relief.

When you truly run the gantlet of forgiving others, you’re forgiving yourself. You let go of what no longer serves you and fresh perspectives surface like wildflowers blooming after a heavy rain. So that’s what I've been doing, mending old, wounds, and ‘stichin'' myself up, and I’m feeling pretty darn good about it.

How about you? Are you ready to clear the cache and hit reset on your new life in 2025?

What’s on your ‘forgive to-do’ list this year? I’d love to hear from you, so leave it in the comments below.

I know you can do it, and I promise - you will feel soooo much better when you get it out.

With that, I’m sending you lots of love and wish you a very Merry Christmas and hope that the holidays bring you lots of joy and snacks and sparkly things…

Until next week my friend,

Stay Wild,

Kelsey

Let It Go: 3 Powerful Tools for Healing and Moving Forward

Do you ever get the sneaking suspicion that there’s something out there watching over you?

Do you go through your day noticing repeating number patterns - or - you hit shuffle on your liked Spotify songs, and you float through the day feeling like you’re starring in your own movie with your own specially curated soundtrack?

For me, all that woo-woo stuff seems to happen daily. Last night I got up for a glass of water and when I glanced at the clock it was 2:22 am, this afternoon, I took a break from cleaning my condo, and guess what time it was? Yep, you got it! 2:22 pm! I thought to myself, ok, this is a sign – stop – and figure out what the universe is trying to say to me. So, I did a little digging and the first thing that popped up on my Google machine said,

“Trust that everything is working out exactly as it's supposed to - let go and have faith.”

The Dalai Lama couldn’t have given me better advice. You see, my husband Luke and I are getting ready to head out on another big adventure and tick off another bucket list item. Our Gypsy souls and the warm weather are calling to us, and we are off to Mexico for the winter.

The dream has been to work remotely in a warm and sunny climate for years, and this is the first kick at the can. I would be lying if I said I wasn’t a little apprehensive about the usual unknowns of traveling to a foreign country and of course all the things I need to take care of before we go. Sadly, it starts with moving out of our cute, cushy little condo on the ski hill. Who knew this Van dwelling Gypsy would love in-suite laundry, a dishwasher, a soaker bathtub, and heated underground parking?!

I’m not sure about you, but in times like this when I am feeling incredibly raw and vulnerable - worry and insecurity start flooding my consciousness, and old wounds surface. And I find myself saying things like, ‘Not these again - those old wounds - gad I wish they would just disappear.’

Can you relate?

Because the truth is, every aspect of our life needs to be tended to, just like a garden. Unfortunately, those old wounds will only heal if you give them the love and forgiveness that they need to let them go. That’s where I’m at. Finding the space to forgive. My rational self says, ‘Great! It’s the end of the year, and it is time to take stock of where I have come, however, my shadow side is telling me to stay clear of any more hurt! There is so much pain wrapped around forgiveness, and although it may feel better to just cut the ties, it won’t help. Forgiveness needs to gently unravel if you want it to heal. Because there needs to be no blood lost in this journey, the only thing that you need is tenderness and patience.

Creating space and coming to terms with your past is the only way to an abundant life. With forgiveness, there is clarity, and that’s what we need if we want to move our business and our lives forward. You and I both know this is hard, so that’s why I have created a couple of must-dos when you are leaning into letting go.

1.       Pay attention to your surroundings, listen to your intuition, and figure out what the universe is saying to you. It is not a coincidence. (remember you don’t need to be an expert)

2.       Find a safe space and cry. Cry your goddam face off. It is scientifically proven that crying activates the parasympathetic nervous system which soothes the mind, releases toxins, relieves stress, enhances your mood, aids sleep, and relieves pain.

3.       Ask for help and be gentle with the process. Remember you’re not alone.

I’m curious, what tools have you used to let go of the past and forgive? I would be ever so grateful if you left a comment below.

I hope this helps alleviate some of your holiday stress and gives you a head start on the New Year.

Until Next week,

Stay Wild,

Much Love,

Kelsey Pew

#9 Ways to Cultivate a Rich Life

Did you know that 50 Cent the rapper and I have a lot in common? Ok, maybe not a LOT but we definitely share one defining value.

We both choose to live a rich life.

And I know what you’re about to say, he’s a bazillionaire, and I most definitely am not! However, in my humble opinion (and 50 Cent’s) we both wholeheartedly believe that having a rich life has NOTHING to do with how much money you make.

“Some people know how to live better than others with or without money. Even if you sleep in a 1-bedroom apartment you may be richer than the rich guy. The fabric of your life and how you feel about yourself in the moment is richness.” (50 Cent)

Some of my richest memories are when Luke and I were living in a Van, down by the river. I know that seems implausible because we didn’t have two dimes to rub together, but for me, that’s when I do my best work. When I have no other distractions or excuses to get in the way of bettering myself. Learning how to be content without having monetary wealth was crucial to my growth.

Why?

When you embody a rich life, nobody can take that away from you. It’s yours to keep forever.

My definition of living a rich life is about having LOTS of fun with my husband - even when life is tough. It’s about cultivating feminine grace under the harshest circumstances; forming non-negotiable daily self-care habits; and creating nutritious, colourful meals with very few supplies.

What does your rich life look like?

Unsure? No problem.

Here are 9 FREE ways to get you on the path:

1.       Donate a minimum of 1 garbage bag of clothes to your local thrift store

2.       Learn how to listen to your body

3.       Get rid of toxic people

4.       Create healthy boundaries with the people you love

5.       Go to the library and get a book on self-awareness

6.       Change your bedsheets

7.       Go to bed early

8.       Go on a date with yourself

9.       Read a book or listen to a story that makes you laugh so hard that snot comes out of your nose

Until next week, Stay Wild…

Much Love,

Kelsey

From FOMO to JOMO: 2 Simple Tools to Shift Your Mindset

Why is it that sometimes adopting a new mindset can be as simple as turning on a light switch, while other times it feels like you’re re-doing the electrical wiring in your house?

‘Cause if it were all easy, it wouldn’t be worth it.’

I recently opened up about my insecurity around FOMO (fear of missing out). This massive realization hit me while I was strolling through the forest last week. It hit me so hard that I felt inclined to share my experience and offer some simple tools to support you because I know that I’m not the only one who suffers from this.

One of my main FOMO problems is the fact that I genuinely do like getting in on the action. I always tell my pals, “I’m a sure thing when it comes to having fun.” On the other hand, I often get sucked into the vortex of needing to be everywhere – all the time. And if I succumb to my insecurities, and say yes; when I really meant no, or go out of my way for someone who rarely reciprocates the gesture, the outcome is always the same. I feel resentment, I’m anxious and I’m prone to say things I don’t mean. All of which do nothing for my well-being.

Can you relate?

So, off to work I went, bit by bit, I re-evaluated my decisions, asked why, observed my emotions, recognized when I was making choices based on fear, and peeled back the thousands of layers that needed to be removed.

Finally, it was like a lightbulb going off in my head and the veil was lifted. I feared that if I didn’t say yes to all the things – I would be forgotten.

It was as simple and irrational as that.

Once I acknowledged my unreasonable fear – that felt like a reoccurring rash – I dug a little deeper to see what the main culprit was. To my demise, I sat face to face with my fear of abandonment. Gad that one sucks. The loneliness, the sadness, the feeling that I am never enough, all floated to the surface and the waterworks began. However, once I hit bottom, it not only gave me clarity on what was actually going on, but it also shifted my mindset. It showcased where my intrusive thoughts were taking over and allowed me to bust through those self-constraints and limiting beliefs.  

Because in reality, I am oozing with love and support. Whether it's from my amazing husband, my best friends, or my family, I know that I belong in this world and I am enough.

So, if you suffer from FOMO like me, I have fantastic news! Below are two very simple but incredibly effective exercises that will get you out of a rut and on your path to joy and ease.

1. Pause and take a minute to find one thing you are grateful for. I know it sounds cheesy, but at the very least, it will distract your mind long enough to acknowledge that there's a better way.

2. Embrace the term JOMO (Joy of Missing Out) and accept that you can’t do all the things, all the time, without sacrificing your peace.

Now I want to hear from you!

What are some tools that you use to shift your mindset?

How do fight off FOMO?

Until Next week,

Stay Wild,

Kelsey

#3 Ways to beat Imposter Syndrome like a pro!

Since we are still in the spooky season, I thought it would be a great time to talk about the worst goblin of all! Imposter Syndrome (cue scary music in the background). This week I had the honour of meeting up with USA TODAY Best-Selling Author (and new friend) Elena Aitken. Even though Elena has written over 50 books and has received national recognition for her work, she still struggles daily to keep Imposter Syndrome on the sidelines.

#3 Simple Self-Care Tools to Weather Life’s Chaos

Boy oh boy has October been a month of fateful endings and new beginnings - and lately, I’ve felt like I’ve been plugged into an electrical socket!

Can you relate? 

On an astrological front, these eclipses have been causing havoc on the soul, and then there’s the global situation that no doubt affects us in ways that we don’t even recognize. It's sure sad what we humans will do to each other. 

If you’re anything like me - in periods of turmoil and chaos, all I want to do is grab a bag of Cheezies, and a cheap bottle of wine, crawl into a hole, and drown my sorrows in a trashy Netflix series. However, in times of upheaval, it’s imperative to put that negative self-talk gremlin aside and lean into the habits that support you the most.

So, before you put yourself into a vegetative state, try these three super simple self-care tools that I do daily to ‘weather the storm of life’ – I promise, they’re easy and take up very little of your precious time. 

And best of all, they’re FREE!

So, check out my video – and then let me know in the comments below what your favourite self-care tools are that you can’t live without.

Speaking of precious, remember, you’re a beautiful precious soul who deserves to live a life of abundance and ease, so do yourself a favour and take some time for yourself – I can guarantee three minutes will change the trajectory of your day:)

Happy Hump Day!

Much Love,

Kelsey

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My name is Kelsey Pew, I am a Business Coach and I am here to get you up, dust you off and offer you an 'abundant, love filled dream business and life!